How to Have Bondage Sex? BDSM AND BONDAGE FOR BEGINNERS.

FIRST CONNECTION Most people associate bondage or bondage sex with BDSM games and hard sex. But in reality, you do not need to enter into a master-slave relationship or desire hardcore sex: bondage can bring passion, eroticism, and even tenderness into your intimate life. So

where do you start?

Start with a light form of bondage, that is, with fixation of individual parts of the body. You don’t need thick, coarse ropes, and you don’t need to skillfully knot them. You (or your partner) do not need to have an acrobatic stretch and a strong stomach to hang tied up head down. And all you need is handcuffs, a scarf or other braces with which you will secure your legs and arms, and a bit of imagination.

Which anchors to choose for the first bondage?

The first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word “sexual restraint” is metal handcuffs. Yes, many couples start with them, although this is not the best choice. They are cold, heavy and leave marks on the skin. Therefore, if you want to use handcuffs, choose one that has a fabric or faux fur softening cover. Another disadvantage of metal handcuffs is the keys that cannot be lost. While most handcuffs have a recoil mechanism that allows them to be removed without keys, they can become jammed too.

So it’s better to start not with metal handcuffs, but with silicone clips: they are soft, safe, do not chafe, and quickly take on body temperature. Leather handcuffs are also great for beginners.

You can also make retainers from available tools. For example, from a tie or a scarf. Just do not use silk scarves for this purpose – they are very, very difficult to untie later! But the silk ropes are untied without any problems. In addition, they are soft, durable, and do not chafe like regular ropes. But you can’t buy such a rope in a hardware store:  special ropes are sold mainly in sex shops.

And in addition to limb braces, beginners should try blindfolds and gags, which also bring their zest to intimate life.

So, you’re done with the choice of clamps, it’s time to think about what to do with it next.

Basics of  Bondage Sex

And you can do whatever your fantasy tells you but within the framework of what the partner agrees to. Before taking action, there is a lot to discuss with your partner.

♦ Assign roles and agree on a stop word to be heard if the related partner doesn’t like something. Remember that sex should be enjoyable.

♦ Talk about what you can and cannot do during such sex. You can share your fantasies about anal sex, but only embody them if the related partner wants it to. Before having sex, make a joint action plan and follow it, for example, massage, oral sex, stimulation of the G-spot with a vibrator, vaginal sex. Over time, you will understand what taboos your partner has.

♦ Don’t be afraid to use vibrators and other sex toys. This not only diversifies sex but also makes it more fun and more enjoyable. You have already taken the first step – tried bondage, so add a couple of harmless sex toys to the palette of sensations.

♦ Finally, remember to switch roles from time to time. This experience will bring you new sensations and allow you to better understand how you act in your favorite role.

Bondage: safety technique

Even such innocent fun as “light” bondage has its safety technique.

1. Be sure to negotiate a stop word with your partner, even if you’re not planning anything out of the ordinary. Remember that bondage is still a game, and players should always be able to exit the game.
2. If you use handcuffs, place your keys in a prominent place. Hiding them in your pocket or under your pillow, you risk losing them. And if the recoil mechanism is also jammed, you will have to call rescuers. You do not want to initiate strangers into your intimate life, do you?
3. Remember the timing: bondage can hinder circulation. Do not fix your partner for more than 30 minutes.
4. If you are using a rope or other tying accessory, make sure the leather is not pinched.
5. It is strictly forbidden to tie a rope around your neck!
6. Also, you can not knot knots on the joints, on the spine, on the female breast, on the genitals.
7. Avoid moles and papillomas: if you damage them, the consequences can be very unpleasant.
8. Remember that the rope can chafe. If you pull quickly on it, you will leave abrasions and even burns on the skin of the tied person.
9. Don’t leave your tied partner unattended.
10. Keep a first aid kit and scissors handy to cut the bondage.

Finally, learn the basic knots, for example, the basic element of shibari – binding the hands.

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